I bought a new relay from nissan today and it only cost R150, however even the new one gets warm with car off, i went to an auto electrican today just to get some info, i showed him that even though my key was out of my ignition if i disconected the battery and reconnected it again you can hear both the EGI and IGN COIL relays click once, and the guy said that its clicking on and something is triggering it, so i stripped my interior looking for shorts etc, i found nothing fishy except for the ECU cabling, it looks as if the previous owners not only swapped the motor out but also the ECU

with the ECU unplugged the relays dont click on, so i think it must either be a fault with the way they wired it or perhaps my ecu is faulty, what also looks odd is that on the back of the ECU it has some tippex writtin on it and it says AT, does the automatic model have a different ECU for the transmission?
The car drives fine and the diagnostics mode works on the ecu and it picks up unplugged sensors.
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